This post is for all people who feel different. It doesn’t matter why you feel it, or who’s fault this is. As long as you feel different, this post is for you and we beg you not to stop reading until you get our message.
It’s okay! You are allowed to be you. You are allowed to be who you want to be, based on what you feel inside. Screw the expectations of other people, screw the view of the present society. Don’t ever let the opinions of others drown your inner voice.
You are unique! You are a limited edition. You have your place and higher goal to fulfil in this life. It doesn’t matter if you have a clear picture of your purpose or have no f#@* clue what you’re doing here: you are a valuable addition.
If you’re attracted to the same gender, if you started your life in the body that doesn’t fit your internal gender, be who you are. Stand up and say it, scream it out loud! Never hide it from the world. What others think of it only has the power you give to them. You are in control, focus the power to your benefit. You could say it’s easy for us to say as lesbians raised in the country that was the first to legitimise gay marriage. It’s not, we know your struggle. We’ve been there, we went through it. But we also know that denying your inner self is a sacrifice not worth taking.
Love who you want, as long as you don’t hurt anyone (if you are attracted to children or abuse women, there’s no reason to deny this but please get help!)
If you are being discriminated because of your appearance of background, be proud of who you are. You are the result of your history just as everybody else. And in everyone’s history there are moments that make people proud or truly ashamed. Know your past and use it to your benefit. We’re Dutch and proud of it, active in the armed forces of our country and specialised in the Dutch law system. This has brought us a lot, even though we are painfully aware our forefathers did not always treat other countries right and many people have been the victim of flaws in the law system.
Be proud of your history and the unique place you occupy in life. Always. Don’t force it on other though, let them be proud of their place as well.
If you feel different, no matter what the cause is, be who you are. You can be weird, geeky, creative, a hulk imitator.. we live in a time when you can be everything and anything you want to be.
Live your live with love and respect others. Let them be who they want to be, try not to judge. If we all live like this, we can create a beautiful life together. Michael Jackson was right when he sang the legendary words: “heal the world, make it a better place, for you and for me and the entire human race”. It’s in our hands, choose love over anything else.
Helen and Nadine